Pearls result from injury! The grain of sand begins to hurt and irritate the oysters delicate tissue. So, as it tries to protect itself and coat the sand to lessen the injury, a pearl results! I couldn't think of anything more perfect. Mr. B and I had both been injured beyond what we would have ever imagined. That pearl on my finger would be a constant reminder to us both, to always be sensitive because of where we had been. To be aware of tender feelings and emotions that surface from day to day. And, as we protect each other and our relationship, a priceless pearl will result---- a relationship that will not be sold for selfishness, but created through sensitivity and injury. My priceless pearl!
No two pearls are alike!! No two marriages are alike! No two families are alike! No two blended families are alike! And, I knew, going into a second marriage, there would be things that were different from the first! I knew that our family might look different than the social norm. I knew that our relationship would be different than any other! So, a pearl seemed the perfect stone! Every time I look at my hand, and see my ring, I am reminded to dare to be dynamically different!!
Pearls are not found just lying on the seashore ---- you've got to know what you're looking for and be prepared to dig, dive and search for them! My pearl wedding ring reminds me everyday that good relationships don't just happen. I have realized, through analyzing past failures, that relationships take time and a lot of hard work. You need to know what you are looking for and be prepared to work for it. You might have to dig through the sands of sea to find the one worth working for. My pearl reminds me that there are times when I will need to dig for answers, peace and patience. My pearl reminds me to always be aware of feelings and emotions.
I have enjoyed speaking to many of you at various events in the community. You have filled me as I have been given opportunities to share in your Relief Society and Young Men/Young Women meetings, lessons, firesides and events. I have loved speaking in Women's Conferences. Each event has connected me with many of you that have filled me when I was empty. These opportunities have seen me through the darkest period of my life, and allowed me to see the light that was, is and has always been there. For that, I thank YOU!!