Whether through death or divorce, chronic illness or tragedy, college or the armed services, missions or marriage, families change! And, when we find ourselves amidst such a change or challenge, we ask ourselves, “now what?” You wonder how you will ever sleep at night, look at the empty chair at the dinner table or celebrate the next holiday season.
Friday, December 12, 2014
Bad Day - Good Day! Praise changes everything!
I was headed to my youngest son's basketball game. It had been one of those weeks that I felt like I was being pulled in a million different directions. I was a little bit late, burned dinner just a tad, and helped the kids finish some of their homework. Needless to say, I was a day late and a dollar short, and ready to burst into tears! As I watched the game, a conversation began between some old friends and I. We talked about hard times and challenges that seemed to have filled both of our homes and hearts, over the past few years. We talked about how hard it is being parents, the challenges of marriage, and how we had coped. We commiserated about our failures and recognized each other's successes. In between boxing out and three-pointers, we managed to continue our discussion for most of the game. Just as the score board rang in the end of the game, my friend leaned over to me and said, "Debbie, you know, in spite of so much challenge and change, you have raised some amazing kids!" My down-trodden spirit looked up and made eye contact and with my head hung down, and I sheepishly responded, "Serious"? The buzzer rang, kids began to flurry. I gathered my coat and bag, rounded up my flock of sheep, and began the long walk to the car. However, my trip out of the gym was much different than my walk into the game. I felt lighter and brighter and there may have even been a little skip in my step, that night. We got home and began the bedtime routine. Then, down came my 17 year old, decked out in her scrubs and ready for work. Here she was, worn out I am sure, from a full day of school and grueling basketball practice, all dressed and ready for work. She works as a CNA at a local rehabilitation center and she loves her job. The clients and staff adore her and so do I. I looked at her and thought to myself, "what an amazingly dedicated and diligent young lady------ I DO have amazing kids!" I asked my beautiful daughter if I could take her picture. I wanted to remember this moment and this feeling! I took this picture to always remind me that happiness can be found in the darkest of times...... you just need to know where to look. And, that I am a woman of strength, talent and positivity and no one can ever take that away from me, unless I let them. And, this picture reminds me that maybe, amid the chaos, heartbreak, loss and change, her mother has done her very best turn obstacles into opportunities.......and ultimately succeed. Bad day to a good day, just from a little bit of praise.